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International Women’s Day Events Gender Equality for a Better Future

International Women’s Day (IWD) is celebrated on 8th of March each year to honor women and their contributions to the community. It is a day to recognize their great efforts and gains; to recall their benevolence and strive throughout the years.

Out of the belief of women’s capacity to develop the community, the GBV team attached to SSSD, in cooperation with the UNHCR, conducted events throughout the centers of Rural Damascus (Adra, Jaramana, Al-Hameh, Sayyedah Zainab) targeting women, men, adolescent boys and girls, and children.

Need: celebrating IWD.

Target: introducing IWD, the important role women play in the community, women’s abilities to overcome obstacles, empowering women, underpinning the importance of gender equality.

 

Jaramana, Athar Al-Frashah Center

Mother’s Group:

 

The team welcomed the women, offering them a flower labelled with their names and attaching it to the slogan of the event “Gender Equality for a Better Future” subtly introducing IWD.

The adolescents performed a play titled “Bisan” narrating the story of a girl who was subject to several types of parents’ abuse throughout her life; however, she finally overcomes domestic violence. The attendees agree that the girl’s story resembles their suffering, all of them faced difficulties and were subject to violence. Many of them were deprived of work due to husband’s jealousy or fear of wife’s success. Hearing the women’s opinions, the team highlighted the different types of gender-based violence.

Afterwards, the team asked the women “Were women able to overcome these difficulties and achieve their ambition?” They unanimously replied “The situation improved during the war, we have become aware of our rights attending sessions. We know that successful women are on par with successful men. We know how to manage our families properly. Women might be able to overcome some of the difficulties- not all of the difficulties. It depends on the environment.” Hearing their reply, the team asserted that each woman is capable of overcoming all sorts of difficulties; each woman can claim her rights and reach self-fulfillment through building mutual understanding with her husband.

Later, the team elaborated on the topic of gender equality, namely, rights and social roles. Women’s opinions covered the following: Women are deprived of their right to education, married at a young age. They are also deprived of their right to work, out of fear of being harassed. Women are responsible for housekeeping and raising up the children, whereas men are only responsible for providing for their families. Women do not have the right to choose their spouses.

 

The team inquired about the reasons of violence (customs and habits, the community, power is only given to men). Drawing on their answers, the team asserted that these reasons are weak and that each woman should believe in herself, her abilities and strength. Each woman is capable of achieving her targets.

Next, adolescents performed a play shedding light on the roles women and men play. The play underpinned the importance of proper communication and participation in establishing a healthy husband-wife relationship and a healthy family. The team then read aloud the supportive messages (You and I are capable of miracles. He and she establish love, family, and happiness..strength shine out of the couple)

Then a lawyer introduced the main changes of the civil status law and handled all the inquiries revolving (marriage contract and witnesses, marriage age, guardianship of children, dowry, divorce, alimony).

The event was concluded by a comedy play performed by the women’s committee narrating the new changes of the civil status law and sending messages (I am ambitious and strong. I will be in charge and prove that I could be successful.)

 

Al-Hameh, Salam Center

Women’ s Group:

 

The team distributed posters in the main street to introduce the event. The volunteers distributed brochures, reaching out to individuals and attracting them to the exhibition.

The team welcomed the attendees, offering each one of them a flower and directing them to the exhibition, which displayed handicrafts, recycled handicrafts, sewing products, Aghabani, accessories, detergents, meals, and sweets.

An adolescent girl delivered a poetry introducing IWD and the event, and then each woman participating in the exhibition introduced her products, how to make them, and the available tools she relied on, as detailed.

 

  • One of the women recycled simple materials and expired items into beneficial, neat and beautiful items.
  • Another woman shared her experience, talking about her training workshop in making detergents, shampoos, hair conditioners, hand and feet lotions, and how it boosted her income. She also talked about the importance of the exhibition in networking and attracting new customers.
  • One woman expressed her happiness, “The feminine side could be creatively reflected in simple pieces of accessories.”

 

The reaction of the attendees was favorable.

One woman said, “I was not aware of IWD. This day creates a space for self-expression and provides a chance to show off women’s creative and productive sides.”

 

 

One man said, “It is beautiful to witness and celebrate IWD, especially during times of crisis, given the sudden changes of family roles, which of women were able to prove they were great achievers, regardless of the community limitations exerted on them and the very limited resources allocated.”

 

The team concluded the event by saying, “Relying on their artistic and creative spirit and their feminine side, women could achieve their goals, prove themselves, and activate their social role. The community will always impose obstacles against the progress of women.”

 

The exhibition was like a train station at Qudsaya Park. It was the first time the team targets beneficiaries from Qudsaya, introducing SSSD and its services. It was also remarkable to witness the attendance of some key persons from the area, a manager of a private hospital and a group of teachers.

 

The exhibition acted as a bridge connecting participating women with shop owners, who reached out to the woman requesting some samples, particularly shampoos and cleaning tools. One accessory shop owner struck a deal with the woman who makes accessories.

 

Adra, Farah Center

Women’s Group:

 

The team began the celebration by welcoming the women and delivering a poem to instill a sense of pride, and then introduced IWD (working women in New York fought for their rights for years).

Next, the team displayed a video about the life stages of women and related social roles and discussed the content with them. The women were impressed by the video, one of them said, “The part that shows how the girl helped her elderly parents really touched my heart, as it underpins the giving spirit of females and their great multitasking abilities, as opposed to males who might neglect looking after their parents, as a result of their responsibilities and life pressures.”

Later, the women attended a play and expressed their admiration of the performance that reflected reality in detail, wishing that men would really play women’s role for one day to get the real feel women experience and the huge responsibilities they manage.

In closing, the adolescents of the center performed a dance show, congratulating women on IWD and spreading happiness. The team then distributed cards, asking each woman to write down greetings to another woman present in the event, a mother, a friend or a close neighbor. The team also encouraged women to do something special on this day, like making a cake or practicing a hobby. Women’s reactions were great, they exchanged greeting cards and expressed their joy and gratitude for the efforts exerted by SSSD team.

“This day is ours; this beautiful place gathers us; we can collectively celebrate and enjoy our self-worth.”

 

Sayyedah Zainab, Dafa Center

Women’s and Men’s Group:

 

The team began the event by welcoming the women and introducing IWD, and then displayed a historical video of IWD, highlighting women’s great roles in families and communities throughout the years. Many men from the audience were impressed by the video.

Next, a theatre sketch was performed, talking about a husband mistreating and belittling his wife, ordering her to fulfill all of his needs. The team then swiftly introduced women’s rights, the most important ones: the right to education, gender equality, the right to work, inheritance rights, freedom of expression, the right to choose a life partner, the right to choose pregnancy time when the woman is physically and emotionally prepared… etc.

Then the team heard the opinions of women on their duties (look after the husband and kids, raise up the kids and instill high values toward love, cooperation and respect.)

The team stressed that gender equality advocates equal rights and equal duties, which guarantees a happy and successful life for males and females. Gender equality empowers women to overcome difficulties and achieve success, which is positively reflected on women’s lives and their relationships with their spouses and kids.

Afterwards, the adolescents performed a dance and closed it with supportive statements (It is your right to enjoy practicing your favorite hobby. It is your right to participate in social activities. You resemble half of the community and you make the other half.)

Later, the team displayed a group of photos of women who were able to recraft history, proving that women are capable of taking on heroic and great roles in life, even though they faced huge obstacles, the community’s stereotypes (women are weak, their abilities and skills are limited). These women were and are still live examples of strong will and success, they had to play men’s roles and they were able to obtain some of their rights, during the crisis and post crisis.

The team discussed the obstacles women face, limiting their self-fulfillment, such as, pushing them to be obedient to the husband, forcing them into early marriage and denying them of their rights. Growing up, females are weakened as part of the social norms and customs.

A child from the center and a woman composed and delivered poems pertaining the ramifications of denying women of their rights on the physical, emotional, and social aspects, such as, isolation, anxiety, divorce, revenge, and suicide... etc.

To close up, the volunteers prepared and displayed a video, telling the story of a woman who was denied of her rights throughout her different life stages and how she was determined to succeed and fulfill her ambition.

Toward the end of the event, the attendees reached a conclusion that de-activating women’s role adversely affects women and their families, whereas activating their role contributes to community development and prosperity.

Women suggested many solutions: Conduct awareness sessions, targeting different age groups, especially males. Enroll women in vocational training courses, empowering them to work inside or outside their homes. Activate laws supportive of women. Conduct activities at the center that support effective communication and highlight the importance of dialogue and mutual understanding as means of avoiding conflict.

Ending the event, some of the women hailed positive words expressing self-worth, self-appreciation and self-care: “Each and every year, we are the mother, the sister, and the friend. We are the strength, the generous givers to our kids and spouses.”

 

Adolescents’ and Children’s Group:

The event started off with welcoming the children and adolescents and introducing IWD by displaying a video, telling the story of a woman who practiced her rights, while growing up and during marriage, and how it positively affected her life. Some of the impressing comments of the children on the video, “A mother is a safe haven for her children.” “A girl is successful when she practices her rights and receives support from the people around her.”

Next, the team displayed a video of a TV program that delivers questions related to gender equality in terms of rights and duties and the children were given the chance to respond. Their opinions pertaining rights revolved around: the right to play, the right to non-discrimination, the right to education, the right to healthcare, and the right to live with a non-violent family. The team asserted that gender equality should be practiced by males and females. As for duties, the children’s opinions were: respect others, commit to ethical values role- modeled by the parents, study and work hard. The team asserted that males and females have the same rights and duties, and that each right someone gains is intertwined with an obligation, he/she should fulfill.

A group of children from the center delivered poems, shedding light on the important role women play in the community and how to invest in their capabilities and multitasking skills to improve their lives.

Later, the team displayed a video, telling the stories of remarkable women throughout different historical eras. These women were leaders and geniuses, and had shown extinguished physical and innovative abilities. The children then told stories of successful women from their community.

Afterwards, the team opened up discussions with the children regarding the physical, emotional and social effects, as a result of denying women of their rights, de-activating their contribution to the community. The opinions of the children revolved around: depression, weak personality, isolation, sadness, the community moves backward.

The team summarized the views of the children and then moved to displaying a video prepared by the volunteers, telling the story of a woman who was denied of her rights throughout her different life stages and how she was determined to succeed and fulfill her ambition. The children hailed some of the statements they heard in the video:

  • “Being a woman is not an underprivilege. On the contrary, prove to yourself and to the world that you are strong and capable.”
  •  “You have so many rights, do not allow anyone to deprive you of them.”
  • “Life is all about hardship, never give up, be patient and determined, fight, and you will achieve success.”

The children proposed the following: Strict laws forbidding the parents or the husband from denying females of their rights. Illiteracy courses targeting different age groups, especially women.

Closing up the event, the children collectively hailed:

  • “Each and every year you resemble strength and generous giving.”
  • “Thank you for being there for us.”
  • “Gender equality guarantees happiness and success to both genders.”

A Dot of Light in the Darkness of My Life Huda’ story

Ms. Huda is 34 years old and has four daughters. She used to live in Babilah where, in accordance with local customs, she married at 15 a young man aged 21. He was unemployed, living in his parents’ home, and even receiving his pocket money from his mother, which gave the latter tremendous power over the couple. It is at this point that problems arose between the spouses.
Huda was very good at school and her parents had agreed to marry her off on the condition that she follows her education. After marriage, however, her husband and in-laws broke their promise and denied her the right to continue school. At her mother-in-law’s incitement, Huda was beaten and threatened with divorce, especially because she gave birth only to girls. Her parents advised her to remain patient—to no avail. Nothing in her life improved; on the contrary, things went from bad to worse.
Huda had a moment of respite when her husband left the country with his parents, leaving her with two young girls. So, she seized the occasion to resume her schooling. Soon after his return, however, she gave birth to her third daughter and problems returned…
It was then that he decided to marry someone else, a divorced woman who had already a son from a previous marriage. Huda returned home with her three daughters and filed a divorce lawsuit. In the meantime, she was employed in a school. But when the war broke out in Syria, she began with her family to move from one area to another and lost her job.
Desperate and resigned to her fate, she decided to return to her husband and traveled to Saudi Arabia to live with him, her fellow wife and in-laws. Soon enough, the man repeated the same old violence pattern, hitting her and the daughters. Then, a fourth daughter was born with a congenital heart defect.
One day, Huda learned that her husband had, seven months earlier, raped two of his daughters—one 10 years old and the other 12. Enough was enough! She decided to call the police. The girls were medically examined but that did not prove the fact because long time had elapsed since. The psychological report on the girls’ condition, however, confirmed their exposure to a traumatic event. Consequently, Huda and her daughters were referred to a protection center in Saudi Arabia, where they stayed for two years and a half unbeknownst to her parents. She fought for divorce, which she eventually obtained after much trouble and huge concessions, and retuned to Syria, only to live with her parents under extremely difficult circumstances and constant social rejection for being divorced.
Finally, Huda was told about the Beit al-Wiam Community Center, Jaramana, through her mother, who regularly attended the women’s sessions thereat. So, she visited the CC in the hope of getting help for her daughters.
She was soon referred to the CP case manager, who requested a concertation meeting with the psychologist and the GBV case manager in order to establish a joint assessment of the case, offer the woman the best possible assistance and develop an effective intervention plan.
Huda was referred to the legal service to get a family book and identity documents for her daughters, which she acquired.
To help her stay in a separate house, some of her most urgent material needs were secured through the CLI Program, such as blankets and other NFIs. She was also offered a wooden wardrobe.
Great attention was paid to Huda by the GBV case manager and she was regularly followed up by the psychologist through individual sessions, which greatly boosted her morals and restored her self-confidence. Her constancy and seriousness throughout the PSS sessions helped her cope with her family’s situation, learn how to deal with her daughters and manage her own situation.
Since she had a good experience as a hairdresser, she was referred, in parallel with the PSS sessions, to the Livelihoods Program to help her get a women’s hairdressing toolkit so she could make a fresh start by earning a living and become fairly autonomous. As she had a strong potential, she was also offered the opportunity to work with SSSD. This both helped in securing her a steady income and enabled us to follow up on her and continue to support her psychologically.
Huda found her work in the context of the GBV Program very rewarding, particularly after she participated in awareness campaigns. This made her aware of various key GBV-related issues, especially when she took part in campaign against early marriage, which definitely strengthened her determination to insist upon her daughters’ education and continue her own education. Thanks to the SSSD follow-up and help, Huda got the high school certificate and registered at the university. Here is what she has to say to fellow women in similar conditions:
“The whole process restored my self-confidence and helped my character-building. Even my thoughts changed and life restarted in my small family. New dreams began to grow…
“We’re so grateful to SSSD. They helped me, helped my children, showed concern for each small detail in our lives, gave us a helping hand until we reached safety. SSSD was indeed a dot of light in the darkness of my life…
“That’s why I say to every woman subjected to violence: ‘Don’t give up, don’t surrender, don’t let yourself be broken, take up the challenge, be stronger than the circumstances!’”

Gimme a chance and see how I get!” Inas’ story

“When we look at her now we can hardly believe our eyes!”
Thus said the mother of 8-year-old Inas, a girl with special needs, mental retardation and speech disorders. She currently lives with her family composed of 5 people in the Unfinished Buildings in extremely difficult living conditions after they were expelled from Rural Damascus (Hazzé).
The family was accompanied by ORVs to the community center near their home and introduced to SSSD services and activities.
The mother and her children expressed their delight when they came to the community center, discovering what it offers in support of people, which results in positive changes in their interaction with the milieu, particularly since they are strangers to the host community.
When the Domestic Rehabilitation Program was introduced in the CC, Inas’ mother was initiated into the Program within several sessions explaining its working mechanism and what it will offer to the girl in terms of skills and abilities. She quickly understood that it was indispensable that she becomes her daughter’s companion and follow her up home in order to achieve the desired goals.
Then we conducted the Portage Program Developmental Assessment with both mother and girl through some questions and direct application using some tools.
After preparing the girl’s household plan and presenting it to the mother, its working mechanism according to a daily routine was explained to her and some helping tools and tips presented. I personally helped the mother to recycle some tools, such as dolls made from old socks, numbers and letters from old books, pictures with words to help the matching process, in addition to the toolkit, which is extremely rich and helpful in achieving the goals.
After several follow-up sessions and re-evaluation of the girl, the achievement of some of goals that have been worked out was as follows:

ü Inas could not solve her problems without a certain amount of physical strain; now she asks adult assistance to help her solve her problems.
ü She did not follow the guiding rules of mental and physical games; now she can participate in competitions with the group and execute all tasks that are assigned to the group, whether racing or games that require assembling or matching pieces.
ü She did not talk about herself positively; now she tells her mother about some of the positive activities and tasks entrusted to her and information she has become familiar with. E.g., “I put my stuff in order”; “I played with my sisters while you were shopping”; etc.
ü She did not participate in role-playing; now she plays with her siblings and names the characters.
ü She did not describe the functions of things; now, when asked about the function of each tool, she responds correctly. E.g., “We use a pencil to write and draw”; “We use soap to clean hands”; “We use a toothbrush with toothpaste to clean the teeth.”
ü She could not use language to negotiate while playing with others; now she plays with other children and talks to them.
ü She did not follow instructions to perform tasks; now she meet her mother’s demands, which include more than one task. E.g., “After going out of the bathroom, please wash your hands and bring water to your little brother.”
ü She could not speak using long sentences; now she can tell me a story she learned or a situation she was exposed to.
ü She did not know how to cut and paste simple forms; now she knows to do that thanks to her presence in the activities and helps her mother.
ü The whole process reflected positively on the girls’ relationship with her siblings; she can now communicate with them better and share time, hobbies, and games with them.
Through activity follow-up and reviewing the plan periodically with the mother, the latter expressed the positive development in the girl. The next goals are currently worked out for further development, such as giving the girl some specific games to serve the goals planned and help achieve subsequent goals.
Since the mother is completely illiterate, the plan was explained to her and she has been followed up constantly. When the mother realized that she should be educated if she wanted to help her child, especially in simple educational matters, she asked to be helped through a literacy course. She is currently part of a women literacy group. She and her child are being followed up regularly at the community center so that she could transfer this knowledge to her children at home. She now searches for educational songs all by herself and prepares simple tools from empty boxes to serve the worked out plan.
Domestic Rehabilitation Program Specialist: Ibtihaj al-Harith

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